This was the last moment I had to myself on our wedding day. I was in deep thought about what was transpiring. I really had no idea just how much my life was going to change. I miss solitude at times. I never fully understood how coming home alone was my way of recharging my batteries. I’m learning to embrace sharing my space and I’m much more intentional about alone time. I love my husband and our life. But I also loved the life I had (mostly) before becoming a wife. Getting married later in life comes with it’s own set of challenges. Always practice self care ladies. It isn’t selfish or wrong. It’s essential. You can’t take care of your family if you aren’t well. Never forget that. #notetoself #notetous #HappilyEverMcLin#JourneytoForever #FirstYearStories #DispelTheMyth
Can’t let the day pass without acknowledging my husband on a successful month of marriage, lol! 30 days ago we said I do and I’ve watched us grow tremendously in a short timespan. Everything hasn’t been all peachy, lol…we’d be lying if we said otherwise. We’ve seen the best and worst of each other but we made it. This time may seem short but we know one bad decision can change the course and length of marriage. We celebrate small things and look forward to great things! Compromise, communication, grace, forgiveness and patience are things our marriage CANNOT live without! Happy 30 days babe…let’s make the next 30 even better!#HappilyEverMcLin #JourneytoForever #GodFirst #MarriageisMinistry
I’ve found out communication in marriage is no walk in the park, lol! The slightest disagreement seems world crashing (so petty) lol! Although this is temporary if you don’t get a handle on communication expectations NOW you’re headed for trouble. 🙄🤔😂
On a brighter note 😬😬:
My husband is a chameleon, seriously. I can count on him to be whatever I need in the moment. He’s been my pastor, banker, financial advisor, counselor, praise & worship team (plays no games about giving God praise), cheerleader, advocate, voice of reason, housekeeper (when I’m tired or overwhelmed), alarm clock, life coach, errand man and etc…..aka THEEBOMBDOTCOM (dear feds, its a figure of speech, don’t put me on your list of threats. Please and thank you. 😎👍🏼💅🏼)
Hope this helps someone appreciate the good and the opportunities for improvement. Marriage is what you make it. Are you investing?#HappilyEverMcLin #JourneytoLove #GrowthandDevelopment#ImNoExpert #JustSharingMyHeart 😂😂😍😍😘😘
I’ve learned the true meaning of intimacy. It is NOT sex, lol! Sex is an event that occurs during an environment of intimacy, at least in marriage. Intimacy is true oneness of body, heart/mind and soul. And it’s built over time. The “jack rabbit ” phase is cool; what do you have after the “thrill” is gone?
Make sure your foundation is solid.
I received so much flack about this Facebook post, lol! I even had people asking was my marriage okay. I can’t be mad at that, I put it out there. However I want to ensure people understand. Sex is a very important part of marriage but it isn’t everything. Be sure you have something outside of sex holding you together. Our bodies are funny. There are times when you simply cannot perform. What do you have to fall back on? Just think about it.
In 60 days we’ve seen the best and worst of each other. We’ve explored depths of our personalities that we weren’t aware of. We’re learning to co-habitat. We’re learning our strengths and weaknesses. We’re simply doing life together and I couldn’t imagine taking this journey with anyone else. I know this time is a drop in the bucket to those who have been married for some time now. But every single day we stay committed we’re breaking generational curses, walking in covenant and exemplifying God’s love…we’ll celebrate that!!! #HappilyEverMcLin #DispeltheMyth#FirstYearStories #60daysin #4EvertoGo 😘😘😍😍🎊🎊🎉🎉👏🏼👏🏼❤️❤️😬😬
Yesterday I learned some things about my husband’s childhood that I never knew. I mentioned that to remind ourselves that life is all about discovery and marriage is no different. Personally, I share everything. If you are my friend or even a close associate at some point you’ve heard deep things about my life because I fully believe in the power of transparency and I talk a lot (if you all hadn’t noticed), lol! My husband is a little reticent in that area, and it’s okay! If you’re the “sharer” in the relationship be open to “breaking news” about your spouse. The discovery process takes a little longer for reserved people and try not to take it as though they’re hiding something from you. If you’re the “quiet” one be open to the needs of your spouse to share, EVERYTHING! Lol! We all process differently and we absolutely have to be patient with one another as we do life together but different. There’s beauty in differences, if we allow ourselves to see it! #HappilyEverMcLin #JourneytoForver#FirstYearStories #DispelTheMyth #TheProcess
So today I realized 2 things:
1. I love family time (always have but it’s different now) 👪
2. I never fully understood the babysitter struggle, lol!!💁🏻
Marrying someone with a child/ren completely changes things. You instantly become a parent (ready or not 😳) and your life embodies that responsibility. I have to say, it’s a challenge at times. 🤔 I don’t have biological children so my “get up and go” game is about 17 years strong, lmbo!! 💃🏻Tonight we couldn’t hangout with my friends because we didn’t plan and call a sitter ahead (sorry yaw, really love you though 🙍🏻😘). I’ll miss them but this shows just how much life has changed. Before marriage and parenting 🙇🏻♀️ you could call me anytime for anything. This is a huge adjustment but I said I will. The sacrifices are real, lol!