Posted in #NotetoSelf, #NotetoUs, Love and Marriage

180 Days!!!!!

It’s our 6-monthiversary!!!! 🎊🎉🎈
I received a call earlier and hubby went over my spending (he’s the budgeter in this relationship) to make sure we were on the same page. Then I walk in the house today to clean and folded laundry. I laughed because my husband could have done anything he wanted with his off day yet he chose to take care of the house. 180 days in seems like forever on the days we aren’t getting along. Today, it seems like we don’t have enough time to explore all the love possible. Lol! Either way we’re learning the true meaning of partnership. We don’t have defined roles. I don’t cook because I’m the woman, I do it because I’m good at it and enjoy it. He doesn’t manage our money because he’s the man. He does it because he’s good at it and enjoys it. We refuse to let society, family or other marriages define our roles. We’re exploring our strengths and capitalizing on them while working on areas of development and getting better. That’s it. No formula. No gender specific roles. Just being who we are. No pressure. No lofty expectations. Just living. I hope we can encourage someone to do the same. Your spouse has a particular set of skills to enhance your particular set of skills. Let it work. Enjoy it. Even when mistakes are made, cause that’s definitely going to happen. Let freedom reign in your household, responsibly and lovingly. You’ll find peace there. Until the next time….. #HappilyEverMcLin #1stYearStories #DispelTheMyth #JourneyToForever 😍😍😘😘❤️❤️💁🏻💏💑

Posted in #NotetoSelf, #NotetoUs, Who am I??

Selfie!!!!

Cleaning the house earlier I thought to myself….how is it so easy to post a selfie (put yourself out there for the world to critique) but difficult to be accountable for awful behavior or terrible decisions? I mean seriously, we post close up shots. Some of us daily, with no thought of any repercussion or consequence. But the minute we’re confronted with facing our “selfie” we run! Lol! 😳🤔😂

After pondering a bit, it hit me!

Most selfies are filtered. Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat (still don’t understand that one) all have filters. Most of us dare not post without them. Webster defines filter as : something that has the effect of a filter (as by holding back elements or modifying the appearance of something). I took holding back and modifying from that definition. As real and open as we claim to be in the social media age, we aren’t! Lol!! Everything we post about ourselves is held back and modified (for most I should say, I know someone will vehemently deny this! 😂😂😂). 

We’ve basically created modified versions  of ourselves to present to the world. What would social media be like if we all presented our authentic, unaltered-selves?? 🤔🙃🤣 The idea is probably scary for some of us!! Let’s make a deal! Let’s truly be our selfies!! Let’s let the world see what’s real! You with me?? No?? Maybe?? Ok, no pressure! Just consider for me! Thanks!! 

Sincerely,

Over Alter Egos 😘